Inspired by a weekend of just listening to people’s stories about their bodies, I felt compelled to briefly write on the “Just” of it all.
Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium, a brilliant, yet, supposedly children’s movie with way deeper messages than the average child would ever possibly understand (and possibly lots of parents), nailed it back in 2007:
Molly Mahoney: You’re a ‘just’ guy.
Henry Weston: What’s a ‘just’ guy?
Molly Mahoney: A guy just like you. Same hair, same suit, same shoes, walks around, no matter what, you think it’s all just a store, it’s just a bench, it’s just a tree. It’s just what it is, nothing more!
I am sure that you have heard it before, “It is just the way it is.” Is it really? In this context, ‘just’ means, “simply; only; no more than,” and becomes a truly limiting statement. It not only limits the power of a store, a bench, or a tree, but it caps the very limit to the way or path through life. In a world full of wonderment, it single handedly destroys the magic that is happening around us everyday.
These limits then become stories, and stories hold a profound power within us and eventually over us. As the stories become mapped and then played out through time, they become myths. To quote Joseph Campbell, “Myth is much more important and true than history.”
The true history of the beginning of the story is relatively irrelevant. Five people can witness an event, and when recounted, we could hear five totally different depictions supposedly about the same singularity. What is important and powerful is how we carry that story with us through time, and what we are attached to in the story.
I personally have a love/hate relationship with “The Work” of Byron Katie because it is so simple and profound, and yet so frustratingly challenging. Can you ask yourself?
“Is that true?
Then, “Do I absolutely, positively know that to be true?”
And finally, “Who would I be without that story?” (My paraphrase of Katie’s work)
So, is it Just your neck? Is it Just your genetics? Or is it a story that we carry to place in a box and not challenge the way things are. Be careful of the story you tell, it may be saying something other than what you think. (and I, of course, am talking to myself here, as well)
It may be your neck, but can guarantee it is not “just” your neck.
To finish, Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, the first Agreement is “Be Impeccable with Your Word….Avoid using the word to speak against yourself.” Be kind to yourself with your word, and remember to breathe.